Remember Your Baptism

Baptism of our Lord Sunday is one of my favorite liturgical days.  I am humbled when I get to place water on the forehead of parishioners saying, “remember your baptism and be thankful.”  I don’t literally remember my baptism.  I was four months old when Don Haynes placed water on my head and my family promised to raise me to know and love Christ.  I have seen the pictures.  I have heard the stories of how I cried.  And I know I can remember because God’s promise to me that day has not and will not fail.  God claimed me as God’s beloved daughter and God promises are trustworthy and eternal.  I remember and I am thankful! 

Through the remembrance of baptism we acknowledge all that God does for us and we are reminded of our identity.  Baptism makes us a child of God and a member of Christ’s universal family where everyone shares the name Christian.  Baptism calls us into ministry.  When we remember our baptisms we remember who we are and who God is.  We remember that we are connected with brothers and sisters around the world who look, talk, think, and even understand God differently and yet the waters of baptism unite us.   We remember and we are thankful!  

I was so excited to be back pastoring a local church and looking forward to marking the baptized with the sign of the cross and inviting them to remember their baptisms.  And then, it snowed and we had to cancel church.  I stepped out on a limb and tried something new for me, I recorded a “Live” video devotional (https://www.facebook.com/sally.queen.14).  What started as just something for my own congregation grew and attracted colleagues, childhood friends, college sisters, neighbors, family and friends near and far, people who knew me since birth, people who teach my children, and people who I do not even know joined together virtually as I had the opportunity to remind all that “we are God’s beloved children.”  The body of Christ came to life as I sat in my kitchen and hundreds joined from their homes and desks.  God’s family was united and worshipping together across denominational lines, with folks who feel forgotten by the church, with folks who regularly attend church and with those who don’t do church at all.  Through the unexpected gift of snow and technology we all were able to remember and be thankful!

Going “Live” today, I had my three daughters beside me.  Ella and Mattie read scripture and Kate greeted everyone with a smile.  I remember their baptisms.  Today they helped me to remember that God entrusted me with their earthly care and I entrusted them into God’s eternal care.  They are living into their baptismal promise.  I am living into my baptismal promises.  And we all belong to God.  Remember and be thankful!

The moment between breaths

 Today I was privileged to pray at the beside of a parishioner who had just died and then moments later I held a brand new baby, only about 5 hours old.  As a pastor we get invited into this intimate moments in people's lives. Since the birth of my own children, a verse from, the great hymn of the church, Because He Lives has become especially meaningful:

      "How sweet to hold a new born baby and feel the love and joy he brings, but greater still the calm assurance, this child can face uncertain days because he lives."

Both birth and death are resurrection moments.  Only one breath separates us from this life and the life to come.  I cannot begin to imagine all the uncertain days that the new baby might face in her lifetime and yet, I know that God will be with her, just as God tenderly and lovingly cared for the deceased.  I stood today on holy ground in that moment between breaths keenly aware that my presence was an expression of God's eternal care.

In that moment between breaths, we,too, face uncertain days.  For me, the post election days have felt very uncertain.  Division, exclusion, fear, and hate seem to be occupying the space between breaths and suffocating us and preventing us from fully noticing God.  We are in need of resurrection.  Perhaps we could let hate die, so that love might be delivered and birthed among us.  Perhaps we could resurrect the moment between breaths as an opportunity to live and proclaim that God is with us.

Called to Be Still

For four years I commuted daily to the Queen City.  Ella and Mattie were born in Carolinas Medical Center, they spent 43 days of their life being cared by some of the best doctors and nurses who call Charlotte home.  Our family flies from the Charlotte airport, we make frequent trips to the American Girl store in Charlotte, we have enjoyed many opportunities for entertainment there, we have worshipped in the heart of the city and we have served alongside some who have no home, but still call Charlotte "home."  We live only 20 miles from Charlotte and I have watched this week and I have felt called to "be still."

I think there are two images that stick in my mind that seem to describe all the emotion that is happening in Charlotte,  The first is of a police officer with a tear streaming down his check behind his gas mask and the other is of a very young man kicking and destroying 4 glass windows of a store.  The tear and the kicking both convey hurt, pain, anger, grief, and fear.  The tear and the kick are not just instant response to the current situation, rather they speak to the deeply rooted issues that exist.  The hurt and pain did not come from just one shooting, the anger did not come from just one situation, the grief did not happen overnight, and the fear has been building for years and years.  

Psalm 46 has become my prayer and it has become my call to be still:

¹ God is our refuge and strength,
    a very present help in trouble.
² Therefore we will not fear, though the earth should change,
    though the mountains shake in the heart of the sea;
³ though its waters roar and foam,
    though the mountains tremble with its tumult.

⁴ There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God,
    the holy habitation of the Most High.
⁵ God is in the midst of the city; it shall not be moved;
    God will help it when the morning dawns.
⁶ The nations are in an uproar, the kingdoms totter;
    he utters his voice, the earth melts.
⁷ The Lord of hosts is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our refuge.

⁸ Come, behold the works of the Lord;
    see what desolations he has brought on the earth.
⁹ He makes wars cease to the end of the earth;
    he breaks the bow, and shatters the spear;
    he burns the shields with fire.
¹⁰ “Be still, and know that I am God!
    I am exalted among the nations,
    I am exalted in the earth.”
¹¹ The Lord of hosts is with us;
    the God of Jacob is our refuge.

Trouble, tumult, and uproar are present and this Psalm reminds us that"God is present in the midst of the city."  God is VERY present and we are called to "Be Still and Know that I am God."  Yesterday our church staff made the decision to open out prayer room in hopes that people would come and seek God and spend a few moments begin still.   Last night at our Bible Study we engaged in Lectio divina using Psalm 46 as our text in hopes that God will help us focus on our response.  

Today is a new day and yet the pain, hurt, anger, grief, and fear remain.  As a person of faith and as a person of privilege, I know that I am called to respond.  I certainly don't have all the answers, but as a mom when hurt, pain, grief, anger, and fear rear their ugly heads in our house, it does us all good to stop, take a deep breath, and center ourselves.  Now is not the time to point fingers or place blame.  Now is the time start bridging the gap of racism, prejudice, and violence by being still and through our stillness we are called to action.  Perhaps if we will commit to sit and be still with God, our response will look different from the past.  Our judgement might not be so much about blaming someone else and our justice might not look like getting even.  We could be called to radically love our brothers and sisters and to seek peaceful relationships.  Our being still and calm might even enable us to sit and have a conversation with someone who is very different from us, so that together we might be able to bring about God's kingdom.  

And lest you are confused, I don't think we are called to only be still.  We are called to be still and focus on God who is in our midst! 

Darkness and Joy

This week we greet the arrival of Fall.  On September 22, the autumnal equinox will occur and a new season officially begins.  The equinox occurs when the sun crosses the celestial equator from north to south and the days and nights are equal in length.  In other words, on September 22, there should be 12 hours of daylight and 12 hours of darkness and from that day forward the nights begin to get longer and longer.  In the midst of the long nights, the mountain ranges brighten with vibrant colors of red, yellow and orange.  After the beauty of the leaves, they land on ground bringing the need for raking and the fun of jumping in large piles.  Football season kicks into high gear and a new school year is well under the way.  Temperatures begin to drop and the first frost may even occur.  Fall is certainly a time when much is changing.  

Fall happens to be my favorite season of the year.  I love the seeing all the colors, decorating my house with mums and pumpkins, wearing long sleeves, and feeling the cool crisp air in the mornings and evenings.  While, I love the season, I know that it is met with much anxiety from others who dread the longer nights and limited daylight.   I must admit the early evening and morning darkness is my least favorite aspect of the season. 

As a mother of 3 girls, I know that things seem much worse in the middle of darkness and that the evening hours are the most difficult time of the day.  At my house, the dinner time hour is met with tired and cranky kids and parents who have worked all day and everyone has expended all our positive energy and darkness is greeted with terrible attitudes.  A fever in the night is often higher than during the day and a sickness seems to be more intense or painful when darkness covers the house.  A strange noise in the middle of the night is louder and more suspicious.  Long nights are challenging and there has been sleepless nights that I never thought would end.  

Theologically speaking, darkness has been characterized as time of loneliness and pain.  God is seemingly absent in the darkness and sin come to be associated with darkness.  Thus, it seems normal that humanity would struggle with darkness.  Depression seems to grow more prevalent during the seasons where there is more darkness, so for many fall is greeted with dread and uncertainty.  People’s moods mimic the long dark nights and they find themselves lonely and without hope.  I pray that as we head into the darkness of fall and winter, that the church would proclaim to folks that, “Weeping may last through the night, but joy comes with the morning” (Psalm 30:5).  The dark days of fall and winter will gradually be replaced with more and more glimpses of light.

As we approach the autumnal equinox, it seems important for the church to remember, Jesus was born as the light of the world and that his light shines in the darkness and the darkness did not and cannot overcome it (John 1:5).  As the night grows longer and the days grow shorter, God incarnate shines brightly and followers of Jesus bring forth joy to all they encounter. 

Called to Pack

     

       

    I really don’t like packing, and I tend to procrastinate as long as possible (for instance I should be packing to head to Lake Junaluska and instead am writing a blog about packing).  This time of the year many United Methodist clergy are busy packing their lives to move from one appointment to the next.  This year, I am among those clergy.  My packing for this move is limited to my office and yet the boxes are inevitable.  The boxes sat in my office for several weeks and I finally decided to add stuff to them on Thursday.  At first, it seemed so easy:  commentaries in this box, theology in this box, leadership books in another box and so on, and then it came to the stuff:  the pictures, the notes, the figurines, etc.  It was one of the first time that emotions were tied to this move.  I looked at the picture of the woman I call “my Shelby mom” standing with me at the dead sea; the “You are Special” plaque that was gifted to me by my homeless neighbor Carl who often stopped by my office hoping for a ride to “Pindale,” the note from a candidate for ministry who thanked me for helping him discern God’s call, the picture of me and the senior pastor I worked with for 5 years wearing our balloon hats and bright orange Faith and Fun Fest t-shirts, and the picture of me wearing my butterfly stole standing in front of a beautiful flowered cross on Malcolm Blvd.  Placing these items one-by-one into the box brought tears and a flood of memories.

                I remember hearing Bishop McCleskey liken itinerancy to packing boxes, calling a moving van, unpacking boxes, and then waiting until it was time to pack boxes again.  His explanation was not meant to be so cut and dry, rather it was to help remind clergy that itinerancy is part of who we are.  We are called to be people on the move.  Our call to pack and move originates in a biblical call to go where God leads us and to follow and trust.  As the tears streamed down my face, I reflected on how much richer my life is for having journeyed to Liberty, Newton, Shelby, Rutherford College, Charlotte and Gastonia.  My call has extended my family to include relationships with parishioners and colleagues I have served with along the way.  My call to pack and move has taken me outside the comfortable and my life is forever changed because I chose to follow and trust. 

                This year, God’s call is leading me back to the local church.  For the last four years, I have served on our conference staff working with candidates for ministry and clergy on their ordination journey.  My life has been made richer through the relationships formed and through witnessing the deep commitment folks are making for the church and the passion by which they live out their call.  I have stepped outside my comfort zone to help order the life of the conference and the church at large and my life is forever changed.  And yet, these last years I have grieved over not preaching and teaching weekly and not administering the sacraments with regularity or planning and leading passion filled worship week in and week out.  I have missed being called “Pastor.”  And just as God called me to this season on conference staff, I have heard the call to “go and serve.”  I recommit myself to God’s call trusting that God has amazing things in store at a new appointment. 

                At the end of the day on Thursday, I had emptied one bookshelf and packed several boxes.  The procrastination was over and the transition was underway.   I AM an itinerant clergy.  Myers Memorial will make my life richer and I will not be the same.  There will be new pictures, new notes, new friends, and new memories waiting to fill my bookshelves and my heart. 

Called Home

Tomorrow morning, I head home to see my family, sleep in my bed, and return to the work to which I am called.  I remember telling Bishop Goodpaster that I hoped I would still love the church after two weeks of General Conference.  Being a first timer has been eye opening, tiring, and heart breaking and it has been engaging and inspiring.  As much as the legislation seems to drag along and the differing points of view seem to abound, the spirit of God is at work through the church I call my home.    

I celebrate the mission and ministry that the United Methodist Church is engaged in throughout the world especially in regards to the Imagine No Malaria campaign that has helped to drastically reduce the number of children who die from malaria.  I celebrate all the deaconesses, home missioners, and missionaries we have been commissioned for life giving ministry to our hurting world.  I celebrate the social justice actions that our church stands for and represents.  I celebrate the clergy and laity who give of their time to serve and to lead our church.  I celebrate that I was here to celebrate the 60 year anniversary of full clergy rites to women.  I celebrate that General Conference gifted our bishops the chance to speak and lead and I celebrate that we took a step toward maintaining unity.  I celebrate that folks from different perspectives will be brought to the table to talk, listen, and discern the future of our church. 

For me, this step is one of hope and possibility.  Many fear that this may be the end of the middle and that our church will ultimately divide.  What comes to my mind when thinking about division is one of the most insightful words I heard a person say as they contemplated separation in their marriage after a hurtful action.  The person said, “I cannot make the decision from a place of bitterness and must press on until my decision can be made from a place of love.”  I pray that our step at this General Conference will be time for us to trust, pray and breathe, so that our decision for the future can be made out of love.  Many are critiquing saying we have done nothing and are leaving much undone and to that I say, our bitterness abounds.  We disagree and we have hurt each for too long.  If we had made another decision, particularly around human sexuality, our decision would have been made out of bitterness.  I am hopeful and see the possibility for a decision made out of love as God calls people to the table for conversation.

For two weeks our theme has been “Therefore Go,” and so I return home loving the church and ready to transition back to leading a local church.  I am so excited and hope filled for all the possibilities.  I am energized and ready to do that to which I am called…to be a mama preacher.  After the hugs and kisses from my family, our first item on the agenda is to dance.  On Saturday, I will watch my girls make magic on the stage as they dance their hearts out and I will join them tap dancing with my adult friends to Uptown Funk.  This home seems far away from the Oregon Convention Center.  And thanks be to God that it is the home I call my own. 

 

Tears and Listening

I sat through morning worship with tears flowing from my eyes.  The voice in my head kept saying, “Get it together!”  Another voice said, “This is what you get for making fun of your mother EVERY Sunday at church when she cried.”  And another voice said, “My heart is broken.” 

My heart was broken in the midst of rumor and talk about splitting the denomination who has formed me from my birth and to which I am now called to serve and lead.  I love the United Methodist Church.  I love her people, her clergy, and her amazing ministry.  My heart is broken because we are broken.  And I was overwhelmed with tears which reminded me of words from Frederick Beuchner about tears. 

Whenever you find tears in your eyes, especially unexpected tears, it is well to pay the closest attention. They are not only telling you something about the secret of who you are but, more often than not, God is speaking to you through them of the mystery of where you have come from and is summoning you to where, if your soul is to be saved, you should go to next.

I shouldn’t count the tears as unexpected because tears are my heart language.  And as much as I resist it, they come easy and flow freely.  They are not a sign of weakness.  They are my heart and I do know that God speaks to me through my tears, so today I am listening for God’s voice.  And I trust that the bishops of the United Methodist Church are listening to God’s voice as they have been tasked with coming to the General Conference body with a direction forward.

As I listened for God’s voice, I heard “focus on where I am.”  In the local church, I used to begin worship with God sightings.  I invited people to share where they had seen God at work in the last week, so I chose to look for God today and here is where I found God:

•  Sitting in the bleachers with a group of clergy from our annual conference that are amazingly gifted, diverse and faithful
  

  
  

  

  #WNCC needs these clergy to survive

•  Holding a 5 month old baby as we heard protestors sing “Bind us Together”

Malachi Dayson

• Hearing stories of friends who have been giving out cards and meal tickets to our neighbors who live on the streets in Portland

• Watching delegations pray together, laugh together, and cry together

a delegation gathered to pray

• Talking to my girls on the phone and hearing them tell me they love me
• Catching up with friends from around the connection
• Sharing a meal with colleagues

God is speaking in the midst of the tears and I will continue to listen.